Let's Talk About Self-Control

 The Bible refers to self-control as temperance.  This word means to control one's self.  If you can master this character quality, you will be well on your way to mastering the rest.  To live a life as a Christian, we must have self-control.  We must say no to our fleshly desires and yes to the Holy Spirit.  In order to live a life pleasing to God, we must exercise self-control. Satan uses our lack of self-control to tempt us in certain areas into doing what he wants us to do.

Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.  ~ 1 Corinthians 7:5

     Our children must learn to control themselves.  In order to be obedient, they must say no to what they want to do, and yes to the orders they have been given.  Temperance is the key to unlocking all the other character qualities.  If you can teach your children to control their bodies, mouths, and minds, the other character qualities will be much easier to develop.


     The only way to teach self-control is by exercising it!  One way you can teach self-control is by having your kiddos sit and listen to you read.  Do not allow them to play or get up and run around.  Tell them to sit quietly as you read to them.  Another way to teach this quality is to have everyone sit down to dinner and use their best manners.  Explain that dinner will be a time to practice listening and eating like little ladies and gentlemen.  One fun way to teach this quality is  the Quiet Game.  Have all the kids sit in a circle on the floor and tell them whoever can sit and be quiet the longest will win.  It is always fun to have a treat for the winner too :)  Treats can be extra computer time or a simple cookie.   These activities teach your children how to say no to their own wills and desires.  It is a hard trait to develop because our flesh cries out to get it's way, but it must be established early on.  How can our children say yes to the Holy things of God and no to their sinful desires if they are not taught how to control themselves.

      Today, I encourage you to look for those little moments to teach this character quality.  I am praying for everyone who are reading these posts.  Praying for guidance and wisdom.