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Monday, February 20, 2017

Let's Stay Focused


     Do you have problems keeping your kids focused on the task at hand?   There are days in our home where I feel like my kiddos are not paying attention or taking the initiative to accomplish what they know they are suppose to be doing.  It can be frustrating for a parent, but there are a few things we can do to help our children learn to be more focused.

     I have found that making lists and talking about what we expect of our children helps in this area.  We sit down every couple of months to remind them of their duties, and to talk about how things are going.  If we have issues come up before our little talks, we address them immediately and adjust things accordingly. Sometimes we find that they are not being inattentive, but instead are having issues that we didn't foresee when we gave them their assignments.  That is why it is so important to talk with our children instead of assuming right away that they are losing focus and concentration.  

     When we do see them losing focus due to distractions or because they are being disobedient, we must take a different approach.  We must remove the distractions or discipline them for their lack of obedience.  They have to know there will be consequences for their choices.  If they know what they are suppose to be doing, but choose not to do it, that is defiance.  It must be resolved.  This is where we may have to take away privileges, or give them extra chores to help them to understand that you reap what you sow.  If they choose to do what is right they will reap good benefits like tech time tokens, or a special dessert, but if they choose to what is wrong, they will reap negative consequences.  

Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. ~Galatians 6:7

     Here is a list of wonderful ways to help keep our kids focused:

  •  Sit down with a list of expectations for each child.
  •  Limit distractions when they are suppose to be working
  •  Tell them they will be rewarded for making good choices. We use a Tech Time Chart.  They receive time to use their electronics if they choose to do what is expected of them.
                                             

  •  Praise them for staying on track.  Many children thrive on words of affirmation.
  • Make sure they are getting plenty of rest during the night and lots of exercise during the day.  Some children lose concentration if they are sleepy or feeling fidgety.
  •  Be sure they are not given tasks that they are unable to accomplish.  Remember each child is different.  What one did at a certain age, may not fit another child of the same age. 
  •  Don't give up on your child!  Keep working with them. 
  •  Control your frustration when they do lose focus.   Remember they are a work in progress.  Give grace when you can.
     
     I would love to know how you keep your children focused.  Please leave me a comment 😊




4 comments:

  1. "Control your frustration when they do lose focus. Remember they are a work in progress. Give grace when you can."

    This is important! It's also important to remember that a child may not be able to do one day what they could do the day before. Brains are funny that way.

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    1. Thanks for commenting Lauren. I agree with you. A child's brain is constantly changing and we need to take that into account :)

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    1. Thank you Rhiana!!! Have a blessed day!!

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